The Orange Buzz

I’ve done lots of fun radio interviews about the book, including a recent one-hour Tele-chat called “Girls’ Night In.” On it, I talked about the book with the “Dating Makeover Coach” Kira Sabin and Melanie Gorman of YourTango.com. If you enjoyed reading my book (or want to know if it’s your cup of tea) this super fun call was about how the process works and why you should get your Orange Buzz going!

The good news? You can listen to the call here (or click on the image below) and learn for yourself how to focus with total conviction on the love you want in your life, and become so authentically happy in your own skin, that you will naturally attract the right partner for you

Click the image above to listen!

Send me your "juice-y" story!

The best part of writing this book? The positive stories I get from those of you who’ve read Meeting Your Half-Orange and write to tell me how it’s added to your lives. Every now and then, I’ll post a story that exemplifies just how powerful a change dating optimism can bring to your life. I hope it inspires you to get your Orange Buzz on and start rolling down your own optimistic, half-orange path!

Amy,

At 52 years old and twice divorced (with two grown sons), I thought this book could not possibly be of any help or guidance to me. Most of the other “dating” books that I have read are targeted at the younger 20-40 something crowd and in no way connect or really address my current stage of life and thinking—much wiser, more mature, focused on what I want in life, still slim and attractive, but not into playing games or the chase, or even the whole dating thing (I’m way beyond that–unbearable!) any longer.

So, I ordered the book from Amazon anyways; what was there to lose? If it turned out to be a waste of my reading time, I could at least pass it on to some of my younger friends.

Well, this book is the best book I have read about finding The One. I have no intention of passing it on or even lending it out. (Sorry, girlfriends, you’ll just have to buy your own copies). I have already made my Big Love List, have several “visualization” scenes floating in my head, and am going to start working on my Dream Board this weekend, and have been getting an Orange buzz going every day since finishing the book last week. I feel absolutely wonderful and absolutely optimistic that “he” is out there. It may take two weeks or two years, but I can wait–he will be worth it. Thank you, thank you, thank you…you rock, Amy, as my students would say (I am a Middle/High School Principal).

Kate, NY

P.S. I wish I had had this book 25 years and two marriages ago!

I love getting on the radio to talk about Meeting Your Half-Orange—especially with people who really understand what it’s like in the dating trenches. You know, sometimes fun, other times gut-wrenchingly awful, and the other times, so so so bad you can’t help but laugh and see it for good. Last week, I did a show with Mary Torres, a host who can not only appreciate the ups and downs of dating, but who was beyond insightful and wise about love herself.

Mary hosts a weekly show on BlogTalk Radio about dating and relationships. I joined her and her friend Shauna for some girl talk about how making a change in your attitude can change what you get in dating and love.

Want to have a listen? Here is the link to our one-hour radio chat: Amy Spencer on “A Change Would Do You Good!”

—Amy

I’ve gotten a number of letters from readers suggesting songs that represent the Meeting Your Half-Orange mindset, and I have to say, I love ’em all! Music can really help “pop the clutch” of your dating positivity: Playing the right song can remind you that your efforts are on target and worth it! I thought I’d post a few of them here, so if you haven’t thought to find a theme song for your love search, here are three that might work. They represent how you might feel after you read the book and become a full-fledged dating optimist!

Song #1: Michael Bublé’s “I Just Haven’t Met You Yet.” This was originally suggested by Whitney, but others of you have said you listen to it, too! It’s my favorite of the bunch.

Some lyrics:

“I might have to wait, I’ll never give up
I guess it’s half timing, the other half’s luck
Wherever you are, whenever it’s right
You’ll come out of nowhere and into my life . . .
Yeah, I just haven’t met you yet.”

Song #2: “Almost There” from The Princess and the Frog. This was a song sent by Stephanie, and it’s cute and spot on! As Stephanie says, “Yes, I know this seems ridiculous, but I am a true Disney fan, and find many of their themes to be perfectly relevant in
everyday life. This is what I keep telling myself. I’m almost there, getting closer
to finding the One and the dream relationship that I want.”

Some lyrics:

“But I know exactly where I’m going
Getting closer and closer every day
And I’m almost there, I’m almost there.”

Song #3: Sugarland (Jennifer Nettles) singing “Settlin’.” This one was suggested by Peggy.

Some lyrics:

“Settlin’…I ain’t settling for just getting by
I’ve have enough so-so for the rest of my life
Tired of shooting too low, so raise the bar high
‘Just enough’ ain’t enough this time
I ain’t settling for anything less than everything.”

What do you think? Do you like any of these songs as your Half-Orange theme song? Or do you have any others that help get you in the right frame of mind?

Amy

Since Meeting Your Half-Orange launched in February, I’ve been impressed by how some of you have found ways to keep your Orange Buzz going. And one of the yummiest idea to date was a recipe for Half-Orange Cupcakes.

Mmm...Half-Orange Cupcakes made by Rachel!

The recipe comes from Rachel, who writes the wonderfully motivational blog “Shedding It and Getting It“. As she said of the cupcakes in the post,

“These cupcakes (via AllRecipes.com) are, hands down, the best recipe I’ve ever made. White chocolate. Coconut. Orange. Even if you are single, I’m telling you, at first bite, you’ll have a renewed sense of optimism and a feeling that everything is going to turn out OK.”

She’s right! What a way to keep your Orange Buzz going: By baking (a “gratification” type pleasure that will feed your soul) a treat (that will make you smile and feed your belly) that reminds you life is good and does work out well when you want it to. And sometimes with coconut frosting.

—Amy

Part of what I love most about getting Meeting Your Half-Orange out there is being able to follow what some of you are doing every day to attract your other halves.

I’ve seen dozens of your Twitter messages that say, “I’m ready for my big relationship!” and “Okay, I admit it, I want a relationship!” And I hope to see many, many more.

And most recently, I have to give a shout-out to this blogger called Aimer who has turned her fresh search for her half-orange into a personal blogging journey:

I particularly like her recent post called “Admitting What I Want” because it’s a great example of just how hugely your life can change by making that small step.

Thanks for keeping the Orange Buzz going, Aimer! And I hope this gives the rest of you some inspiration to take your own steps from the book. Start small and make your journey public with your friends, your family, or in a journal at home. Or, go all out and start your own blog about dating optimism like Aimer did (and certainly, if you do, let me know so I can mention it and follow your journey!)

Either way, get on the half-orange path, because the love of your life is waiting at the end of it.

—Amy