Guest Book

I absolutely love the inspiring stories some of you have sent me about how dating optimism has changed your life. And I’d love to hear more stories like that here! I want singles to learn what has worked and changed for you since reading the blog and book, so they can do the same. Tell me your experience: How has dating optimism helped you?

  1. Amy,
    At 52 years old and twice divorced (with two grown sons), I thought this book could not possibly be of any help or guidance to me. Most of the other “dating” books that I have read are targeted at the younger 20-40 something crowd and in no way connect or really address my current stage of life and thinking–much wiser, more mature, focused on what I want in life, still slim and attractive (don’t mind saying that–actually look look about 10 years younger than I really am), but not into playing games or the chase, or even the whole dating thing (I’m way beyond that–unbearable!) any longer.

    So, I ordered the book from Amazon anyways; what was there to lose? If it turned out to be a waste of my reading time, I could at least pass it on to some of my younger friends.
    Well, this book is THE best book I have read about finding The One–I have no intention of passing it on or even lending it out. (Sorry, girlfriends, you’ll just have to buy your own copies). I have already made my Big Love List, have several “visualization” scenes floating in my head, and am going to start working on my Dream Board this weekend, and have been getting an Orange buzz going every day since finishing the book last week. I feel absolutely wonderful and absolutely optimistic that “he” is out there. It may take two weeks or two years, but I can wait–he will be worth it. Thank you, thank you, thank you…you rock, Amy, as my students would say (I am a Middle/High School Principal).

    Kate
    Lake Placid, NY

    P.S. I wish I had had this book 25 years and two marriages ago–ah, Monday morning quarterbacking!

    Kate Mulderig
  2. Elise and Deb, thanks for your stories! And Elise, I LOVE your new fortune cookie mantra, “Good things are coming to you in due course of time.” What a perfect answer. Keep following your intuition and like Deb is doing, keep looking for that soft place to fall when it comes to love. So happy you both like the book and I can’t wait to hear about what comes your way…

    Amy
  3. I read a review of your book in Vanity Fair December 2009 and promptly started looking to buy it! When it was published, I took separate trips to three different bookstores knowing your book was in stock, but feeling embarrassed to ask about a dating/self-help book so left empty handed each time. Finally, on my 4th visit, I bought the book after asking an employee for help locating it. Your stories were so insightful and motivating; I finished it in one sitting. I agreed to myself that I would activtely focus on my desire to be in a relationship rather than investing all my energy into work and being “open” to a relationship.

    Ironically, since then, my work life has improved dramatically. I feel more rewarded and encouraged in my job than I have in years, and I know it’s because of my underlying positivity, and the freedom I feel to go or do whatever without worrying about ruining my chances of finding love.

    So much of what you said resonated with me, but especially the piece about it not being my job to find love, but to want it. The other day I was with a co-worker when I opened a fortune cookie that read, “You will soon have an opportunity to make a change to your advantage.” She asked, “Hmm, do you feel disadvantaged?” I said, “No. Not really. I don’t really like that fortune; I don’t want to do something for an advantage, I just want the good thing to come to me. I’m going to open another cookie.”

    The next fortune read, “Good things are coming to you in due course of time.”

    A few minutes later, the same co-worker then asked if I’m seeing anyone.

    I promptly responded, “Good things are coming to me in due course of time.”

    I really believe this, in love and in life. You communicated so clearly and straightforwardly in your book–I’ve been recommending it to single and partnered friends so they can check in with their intuition either way. A few weeks after reading the book, I’m still surprised at how much I’ve been able to continue “implementing” it, and I kept thinking that all of your ideas are what a really good mom would tell their children all along.

    Thank you so much for sharing your encouragement through the book. I know this won’t be the last story I’ll have to share.

    Elise
  4. Amy,
    The Suitcase Feeling that you mentioned is what I always felt as my soft place to fall. That place/person that was all cozy, soft and safe to just fall into, take a deep breath and just BE….. That place/person that made me smile from my heart and feel so warm that I felt I was glowing….
    I love the book! You are wise beyond your years. It took me a long time to learn the things you so clearly write about in this book and your blog. Keep following your instincts and your heart and I thank you for sharing so we can identify and learn.
    Deb ♥

    deb
  5. Thanks, Deb! I so appreciate that you ordered it. And, yep, that’s the message: Own yourself, trust your gut, and ask for everything you want to feel in the right relationship with no apologies! It is so exciting, and I hope you enjoy the ride…

    Amy
  6. i just ordered the book and can’t wait to get it… your perspective on being happy with ourselves and our lives and completely at home in our own skin is so enlightening…..
    and to be focused on what we want as opposed to what we don’t have is so refreshing and exciting…

    deb
  7. A-ha, you sure did John! But see, the fact that you care enough for those poor John-less women is proof there are good men out there! 🙂 Thanks for the support…and credit card swipes. 🙂

    Amy
  8. Spence,

    Congrat’s on the book! I cant wait to get it for all of the single women I know!

    I left a trail of heartbreak and despair when I tied the knot, the least I could do, is send them your book. ;o)

    John

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